Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Why "Sex and the Married Jew?"

We're in the middle of a crisis and I want to do something about it.

Jewish marriages are failing. Otherwise Orthodox people are engaging in behavior that is usually viewed with disdain.

It's time for some new thinking on the role sex plays in the lives of Jews and I don't think Shmuley's getting it completely right.

Of course, I need to remain anonymous because many of my observations of real-life situations will be played out here and we can't go upsetting the apple cart, can we? (Take that as a hint to the salaciousness you'll read of herein.)

My goal is to post about once a week and, of course, comments are welcome.


  1. Good luck with the blog - its the first frum sex blog that sounds like its truthful - most blogs fail, good luck with that and your struggle.

  2. Thank you for your kind wishes. But who says I'm engaged in a struggle?

  3. About bloody time someone said something about it.

    As an Israeli secural Jew, I thank the Gods (agnostic, pagan - call me what you will) for the freedom I have to explore my sexuality with my husband.


    We're not all that lucky. And I have learned this up close in the short time I worked as a proffesional dominatrix (no sex, just pain). According to my observation of the paid domination market in Israel specifically, over 40% of the regular customer base of local Dommes are from the "Haredi" community. Coincidence? I don't think so. The level of distance and repression most of these men experience in their sex-lives at home are sad to say the least. Their sexual needs (such as submission and other fetishes) often turn into frustration and depression when an outlet is not available. The risk of being discovered as a client of a pro-domme is not nearly as frightening to them as thier wives' discovery of their fetish. How wrong is that? Very, in my book.

    There's an old French saying stating that anything that happens behind closed doors between two sane adults can not be bad or wrong. Perhaps this is an approach Heredi Jews need to start adopting.

    Just my $0.02.

  4. That is exactly the approach I espouse for married men and women. Everything should go, as long as both consent!