I've been doing lots of surfing lately, trying to see who's saying what about Jews and sex. Check out this handy list of blogs. Read them; they're illuminating.
But, it should be noted, most of these bloggers seem to be using their blogs as outlets for their frustration. I think that it's good to talk about what you're feeling, but ask yourself this: why are so many people so frustrated?
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because theyre symptomatic of the problems of society. society is frustrated. boys dont talk to girls for 20 years, then after a couple of meetings, they decide to spend the rest of their lives together based on very little knowledge of the other person. 5 years down the line, both have grown as people, but neither are who the other thought. id be pretty frustrated in that situation.
ReplyDeletethey are symptomatic of society. you dont talk to the opposite gender for 20 years. you then meet someone for a few hours. you then make the decision to spend the rest of your lives together. 5 years down the line, neither are who the other thought they were.
ReplyDeletepeople point to lower divorce rates among the jewish community, but thats because women have less to fall back on, are damaged goods, less educated/aware/ of their rights, perhaps have low self worth. its not a viable option for most charedim in unhappy marriages. there is no forum for discussion, nowhere to look for advice. bochurim are not taught how to treat their wives. wives want learners. there are so many issues i have with contemporary society, that i refuse to believe this is what G-d wants from as frum yidden.
I agree. There is no way this is the way it's meant to be.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you! I do use my blog as an outlet, of sorts. I come from a secular background, I have been in sexual relationships since I was 14, I have always been an excessive flirt and I married a nice, inexperienced bais yaakov girl who is very closed off to sexual experimentation and is not willing to speak, with me, openly and candidly about sex.
ReplyDeleteHow on earth did you end up with such a wife?
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